Fiction n Friction

Mental Skills

Move out of the resistance to what you don’t want and accept it fully as part of the learning in this goal that you have set yourself.

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Put the game face on. Another layer of BS that we wear on our face to show we mean business. Bluff and puff, but when push comes to shove it can never be enough. Sport is an amazing metaphor for life, the ultimate mirror.

Yes, you can bullshit the mirror, but you can’t bullshit the reflection. So here is my broadside across the bow of any athlete that is serious about achieving. Own It! Leave the theatrics out of it. Leave the blame out of it. Leave the victimhood out of it. Leave the projections and fantasies for the books and movies and work hard on your inner attitude and aptitude. It’s all about you and your internal game. If you want to stay in the game, stay out of blame.

Never blame any experience, regardless of what it brings:Good races will bring you happiness.Bad races will bring you experience. The very worst races will bring you lessons.

This is the definition of flow and if you are serious about this, you are going to need it. Stay in your body and out of your head. Don’t let the judgment and projection run the show or you will lose contact with your process. Sure. Set the goal, set the intention, then give it up by trusting your body to follow the direction of the path you have set.

Then stay grounded in the truth of what is happening here and now at this point in your process. Give up on where you think it should be and deal with the reality!You won’t see it for what it is when you are looking through the lens of what you want it to be. Stop arguing with what is, it’s a waste of energy that can lead you and your athletic dream into anxiety and depression when reality doesn’t meet fantasy. Your success cannot come to you, it can only come from you.

In the end, whatever you are trying to control will control you.

Move out of the resistance to what you don’t want and accept it fully as part of the learning in this goal that you have set yourself. If you are in resistance to your process, then you are in resistance to your own goal.

All the goggles
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Carl Jung sums it up perfectly for athletes with some of his wisdom below: ”Man needs difficulties; they are necessary for health."”Neurosis is the natural by-product of pain avoidance.””The greatest and most important problems of life are all fundamentally insoluble. They can never be solved but only outgrown.”~ Carl Jung.

In my coaching experience, this is bang on. People don’t overcome the challenge, they simply outgrow the discomfort.

The less friction that comes to you over time through the acceptance of discomfort, the more growth that comes to you and from you.

The outer world vibrates at the same frequency as we do in here. That’s all you really have to know.