There is no “positive” you and “negative” you. It’s all you.
Just like dark and light, night and day—both are part of the whole. If you try to rid yourself of your negativity or darkness, you’re trying to erase your own contrast. And without contrast, you become a shell.
If you can learn to stand in your negative polarity without abandoning it, you empower yourself. Because nothing is as disempowering as abandoning yourself. And—at the risk of pissing some people off—positive thinking is often a form of disassociation from what you’re actually feeling.
If you can stay present with what you feel, you’re teaching yourself: It’s ok. This feeling came. It will leave.
What keeps you stuck is the belief that you need to escape your feelings. But that escape—that trying to move away from what is—is the trap.The bad feeling isn’t the enemy. It’s a signal. It wants your attention, not your disassociation.
Your nervous system starts screaming louder and louder: “Hey! Don’t fucking abandon me here!”
People drink, use drugs, numb out, just to escape the idea that we are not whole. But you are whole. Not in parts. Not in pieces.
You’ve got to find a way to be there for all of it—not just the parts you approve of—if you want to truly know yourself. In sport, in life, in everything—this applies. Fulfilment, understanding, empowerment, compassion, love—They’re all waiting on the other side of what you don’t want to feel.
The practice?
Be there for it. Let it move through you. Don’t go anywhere—not physically, psychologically, energetically, or spiritually.
Learn how to stay put.
Learn how to show up for yourself.
Gilesy
