You might as well just get over it… and get on with it.”
Putting yourself into the red zone isn’t a relaxing process. People often say to me, “Why do you keep telling me to relax when it’s not relaxing?”
No, it’s not relaxed. Psychologically, it’s about working on becoming okay with not being okay. Look—the bottom line is, I’m not suggesting that traversing suffering is like sitting in an armchair.
The truth is, you have to teach yourself how to hurt and be okay with it. You can sit in an armchair stressing about any number of shit situations that make you f*cken uncomfortable, right?
It’s not about the armchair. Truth is, you can suffer at the hands of your own mind anywhere.
How many of us have laid awake at night stressing over some shit that’s probably never going to happen? That’s the nature of the beast. And the beast isn’t the physical suffering, the weather, the conditions, or that scary course—it’s your thoughts about it. It’s relaxing into what the mind doesn’t want to feel.
It’s not about what you think—it’s about how you regulate your nervous system under duress. That’s the powerful process. You’ve got to come to the realisation that the mind is going to paint shitty pictures in an attempt to keep you safe.
It believes that if it avoids hard and loud enough, you’ll come back to the safety of the armchair. Problem is, if you do sit in that armchair, the mind will double down on all the reasons you’re a pussy.
So now it’s about observing that thinking. Breathe into your belly. Feel your feet on the ground. Send your nervous system the embodied message that everything is okay. Because your mind isn’t going to do that. You might as well just get over it… and get on with it.
The fastest way out of your mind is into your body.
We believe we are the content of our thoughts. It’s bullshit.There’s no strength there. No real resilience. It’s a hall of mirrors—everything bent out of shape.
Can you feel that gravity pressing your body into the ground? That’s your ground.
Can you feel your breath filling your belly?
That’s your life force, man.One breath in for life. One breath out for death.One in for the new. One out for the old. That’s presence.And now—regardless of what suffering is occurring physically—you are there for it.
You’re showing up for it and for yourself, at the same time. Instead of running away into the same old stories that keep you awake at night, staring at the ceiling.
Waking up simply means staying awake to what’s happening.
That’s strength. That’s resilience. That’s the raw power of your own presence.
Gilesy
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